Dee in Tampa's Drama, Violet and Nephew Update

I knew fucking Dee in Tampa was heading to some kind of drama.

A brief synopsis of what's going on.

After my rebuff of her love, she started hanging around a coworker who is about 100 years old. Then one night they had sex. Dee is now in a relationship. Her coworker is going through a divorce. He has two kids. One kid is a young teen and the other is 20.

I warned her before hand, stay away from anyone going through a divorce if you are looking for a relationship. It's bad news. If you both are just fucking that's one thing. Relationship would be bad news.

So Dee does what she normally does. She doesn't listen to my sage advice. Instead she chooses to do the same thing she always does. Instead of slowly nurturing a relationship, she moves all her chips to the center of the table and goes all in. I think they've been dating since around October of last year.

Now she's complaining about the kids. The 20 year old is a slacker who doesn't work or go to school. Worse, he ate all the food she takes over for her weekends there. I forgot where her complaint was for the other one. I tuned her out immediately.

I reiterated my earlier warning. She claims he lets the kids get away with anything they want. I stepped up my warning. I told her how a woman interacts with her kids is a major indicator of how she is as a person. When she described all the things he did, I told her not only were those warning signs of weakness but they were red flags to me. Not only would I step back but I would probably move on. I'd rather be alone than deal with someone's baggage while going through a divorce.

Then she goes on to bitch about him. He's drinking to much, eating to much and his health is going to shit. I'm like hello. I warned you about the divorce and he's a 100. Then she reveals that he hasn't even gone to start the divorce process. He was served but hasn't responded. I flat out told her that she needed to spend less time with this guy. There are better candidates out there. She didn't directly tell me but I gather she just got tired of being alone. To me it's not worth the price.

I've decided that when things go wrong I'm not going to give two rat's asses about it. I warned her. I told her it was a bad idea. Yeah, I know, she helped me out massively by listening to me when things went south for me. She was my strongest shoulder to lean on.

What I've never revealed is that she warned me if I did certain things she'd pull the plug on our friendship. She said if I ever got back with Violet she'd have do distance herself from me. At the time I didn't know why she took that stance but later it's cause her feelings for me.

That's her business but I don't put conditions on my friendships. She obviously has. It's a two way street baby. I warned her about this situation she got in. I knew it had the potential for disaster. If it blows up, guess what? Not only will I say told you so but I won't be sympathetic to your plight.

As it is, I already have started not logging on instant messenger to avoid her. She talks a big game but when it comes time to following her own advise she fucks up. Our friendship was already hanging on a thread after her August confession. This just maybe the straw that breaks the camel's back.

Quick Violet and Nephew Update
Violet finally got her results back from the follow up to her mammogram. It's only a cyst and not cancer. They still want to remove the cyst. Right now they need to determine to use medicine or surgery. How good am I at this Pope business? I told her it wasn't cancer. I was right. Like Dee, Violet doesn't realize how close to the edge she is with me. She's still a friend but there is some shit she just needs to quit if she wants me to stay friends with her. I won't get into it now cause it deserves its own post.

Same with my nephew. The doc finally got what it was. Mono.

If you need a prayer from the Pope, just send me $50 and I'll put in a good word for you with the Guy upstairs. We tight.